My tears. Since I was in my late 20s at least, they've come more easily than ever before. Sad things can bring them on, sure. But mostly, it's the beautiful things. The profound things. And things that are just poignant and stirring. But whatever the cause, they come with frankness and in real earnest.
Sometimes I wonder if I should listen to Sufjan in public anymore. Always an emotional songwriter, his last few efforts, Carrie and Lowell and Planetarium, have been especially frank, incisively autobiographical and completely leveling (especially when you get clued into his autobiography.) It is inevitable that my eyes will become wells in a coffeeshop. But I guess I believe that it's not reasonable to blubber in public or have a crying fit while I'm at work, there is a deeper sense of shame that, if I'm honest, rests down in the nether regions of my psyche, and it is activated when my tears come. I am brought to tears in public by openness, but then shame comes and closes me up again.
If you've been on the site this December, you've probably noted our ManMade Musical Advent Calendar series, where we're sharing some of our favorite non-cheesy seasonal songs each day leading up to Christmas.
This post began as one of those, scheduled for tomorrow. But by the time I got done stream-of-consciousness-ing all over the place, I realized I'd gone off into somewhere more than why I like this chord progression.
Chivalry isn't dead in 2014. It's just, you know, different. In the era of smart phones at dinner and social networking breakups and Google glass and streaming media and cigarettes that aren't really cigarettes but still kinda are, the be-a-good-guy rules still apply, they just need to be updated a bit.
Seventy-five years ago, in 1938, Harvard University began a study following the lives of 250+ young men to see how the various ups and downs of adulthood would affect their experience. As Feelguide summarizes, "The study’s goal was to determine as best as possible what factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing. The astonishing range of psychological, anthropological,
Actor, author, and all around masculine archetype Nick Offerman pokes a little fun at his cult status as the epitome of manliness. In this dialog-free video, Nick awakes in the woods and walks through his everyday routine of eating raw onions and drinking motor oil,
South Korean photographer JeongMee Yoon has created an ongoing portrait series entitled, The Pink & Blue Project. The images feature children, generally aged 3-7, who are obsessed with the standard colors prescribed to their genders, pink for girls and blue for boys.
She says, "This project explores the trends in
I just stumbled across this fascinating "how-to" from a 1937 issue of Life magazine on the proper way to take off your clothes in the bedroom. One must be sure to avoid the "hideous climax of slovenliness" when removing a shirt, or that cardinal bedroom Don't: scratching oneself, even though, "many men break this rule."
Rather, you should go about it like "this Adonis," who
ManMade was founded on the idea that there's no such thing as the "average man," at least as far as creativity and hobbies go... But, as a site and community dedicated to making fruitful lifestyle choices, it is interesting to see how our own lives and habits might stack up against our peers. Compared to the "mean" man, let's say.
For example, check out this graph on average men's fitness to see how your health compares to others. Not like a locker room, howmanypushupscanyoudo sorta challenge
If you ask me, there are few better examples of the quintessential man than Ernest Hemingway. Sure, he had some flaws, but damn, he was a cool dude.
Last summer, in honor of the 50th anniversary of Hemingway's passing, the good folks at 1000memories created this great poster titled Live the Hemingway.
Esquire magazine has assembled its ultra-list of "25 Skills Every Man Should Know." We appreciate the diversity of the list: sure, it includes stereotypically "manly" things like "Skin a moose" and "fell a tree," but also plenty of ManMade-y stuff, like
If I haven't gone on record before, allow me to do so now. I love Primer. Andrew and company are dedicated to exploring what it's like to be a guy in the twenty-first century, avoiding both the nastiness of men's magazines and old-timey stereotypes of lots of men's motivational content. They take the same approach that I attempt with ManMade, focusing on style and fashion, health, generally, being a good guy.
There are a lot of things that make men and women unique: the way we make decisions, the ways we're percieved in culture, the best ways to exercise for our bodies...and, of course, the way we go to the bathroom. And just because men can use their flies doesn't mean it's easier.
I know, I know...this is a little email forward-y. But, I've made a lot of mistakes when DIYing and making stuff, and have had to start over from silly errors, or being underly cautious. I guess it makes me feel better to know that at least I didn't do this:
I'm betting the psychologists have probably figured this out by now: guys need a space. A special space. A clubhouse, a workshop, a pub, a lounge chair, an office, whatever...men are simply wired to seek a spot for themselves that energizes them.
Of course, moving beyond the way-to-old-to-be-safe-and-most-likely-smelly furniture and the vintage metal signs look isn't always easy. But that doesn't mean a man room has to be done up only in the colors of a sports team or feature multiple neon beer signs.