The first week of January is often about adding things to our list. "This year, I'm going to do this every day, or execute a hundred of those..." Instead, perhaps this is the year you drop some of the stuff that just isn't serving you well. We have a few ideas.
If you're looking for a New Year's resolution list to help inspire your personal betterment this year, look no further than this founding father's temperance chart. Read on to see how you can print your own.
As far as the truly great characters from U.S. History to which we might look for timeless advice, it's hard to beat Benjamin Franklin. (We still love you, Mark Twain!) Franklin was born into a family of very modest means, but he manage to use his basic education (he stopped going to school at age ten) to become a successful author, scientist, statesman, printer, politician, inventor, humorist, civic activist, diplomat, and $100 dollar bill appear-er.
Your bachelor pad. Your family home. That apartment with all the architectural detail and the amazing view. Wherever you live, houses get messy. And they stay that way, until you clean them. When your plans to let someone inside ends up happening before your hopes of getting your home back to normal, then it's time to clean it. Quickly.
You don't have the time to deep clean and scrub, so make the little bit you have count. If you're smart and focused, you can pull it off in the running time of your favorite record.
Newsflash, amigos. Sometimes we mess up, and sometimes we need to say we're sorry. But if offering an apology starts with the line "I'm sorry if you," then you're not actually apologizing; you're simply expressing your own regret that you and the other party are not on the same page....namely, that they don't agree with you. In fact, we're deeming the word "if" inappropriate for apologies altogether. The other person can never be the subject of an apology.
If you're apologizing, you're the subject not just of the opening clause, but the whole paragraph: it is you that is sorry, you who owns the responsibility for the conflict in the first place, and therefore you who needs to put things back together again. An apology is not an opportunity for you to move past the other person's offense in an argument so you can return to making your same point as before. The apology is a pivot point that changes the nature of the conversation altogether.
It's the classic finish to every story. The hero overcomes the odds, beats the villain, and rises victorious from the ashes of his enemy. But is that how life really works? The real world doesn't seem to support such a clear-cut approach to how we "win". My experience so far tells me a very different story, and we'd all be better off if we marched to a much different rhythm.
While we love a good scientific study, sometimes a simple narrative can help convey reality even better. And the truth is: it's hard to make new friends. Real friends. The kind that you don't just tolerate cause it's good to get out of the house, but feel at home when you're with them. And for men, making new male friends, especially after your mid-20s, is a seriously difficult endeavor.
We’re all told today how to act like a man. It’s ingrained in our movies, our music, even our weekly basketball pick-up games. If there's a more meaningless phrase a kid hears growing up than "be a man"... it's news to me as a now adult male.
If you've been on the site this December, you've probably noted our ManMade Musical Advent Calendar series, where we're sharing some of our favorite non-cheesy seasonal songs each day leading up to Christmas.
This post began as one of those, scheduled for tomorrow. But by the time I got done stream-of-consciousness-ing all over the place, I realized I'd gone off into somewhere more than why I like this chord progression.
You've seen it. Old movies, Looney Tunes cartoons, vintage black and white photos that at least look real. An axe is, after all, a sharp blade, and apparently, you can shave with it.
Bill Murray has made a name for himself not just in Hollywood classics such as Ghostbusters, Caddyshack, Groundhog Day, and Lost in Translation, but also as an all-around sweet guy with some playful eccentricities. Whether bombing wedding photos, crashing college parties and staying late to do the dishes , or giving toasts at strangers' bachelor parties, the man seems to have kept a good head on his shoulders and is always doing something unique.
Ever noticed how our images of leading men seem to be getting more and more jacked? Ripped? Swol? Esquire explores this trend (in what is perhaps my favorite article of 2014) as men's interest their bodies becomes more about seeming athletic than ever before.
As an actor myself, I've talked with a number of young men
We all know the stereotype of the grumpy old man. We've met him, we're related to him, he lives next door, some of us even have to work for him.
Seventy-five years ago, in 1938, Harvard University began a study following the lives of 250+ young men to see how the various ups and downs of adulthood would affect their experience. As Feelguide summarizes, "The study’s goal was to determine as best as possible what factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing. The astonishing range of psychological, anthropological,
Actor, author, and all around masculine archetype Nick Offerman pokes a little fun at his cult status as the epitome of manliness. In this dialog-free video, Nick awakes in the woods and walks through his everyday routine of eating raw onions and drinking motor oil,
Be a good man.
For many guys in the twenty-first century, aspiring to the "good" part is easy...it's the man part that seems tough. Those who've never been much moved by abstract virtues that aren't sensitive to one's specific context can find it tough to embrace their masculinity without becoming an arrogant jerk.
Combos (the filled preztel/crackery things) and researched Bert Sperling have just released the second edition of "America's Manliest Cities." The winner this year is Charlotte, North Carolina, with my own city of Columbus, Ohio in number two, and Kansas City, MO coming in third.
So, check out how they determine this: there are five criteria in which a city can be ascribed up to 100 points, based on per capita figures. They are the availability or consumption of
- Sports - professional major league sports teams (football, baseball, basketball and hockey), the number of nearby NASCAR tracks and events, NHRA events, local drag racing